Take life into your own hands - How to stop caring about what others think, say or do? • Tara Fischer

Is there something you don’t want to start doing because you fear what other people might say if they find out? Is there something that you don’t want to do because you fear people will not like you if you did? Or are you may be having lots of thoughts, wondering what others might say or think about you? Then girl, you are definitely not alone. We all fear being not liked. We all care to some extend about what others think or say about us. Because who really wants to be spoken bad about? I for sure not. However, obsessing too much about what others think or whether they like you or not can stand in your way towards your goals. It can hold you back from doing what is necessary to achieve those goals and finally live the life of your dreams. Now let’s talk about stop caring about what others think.

Why we care so much about being liked?

In order to stop caring about what others think we need to understand why we care first. I guess that question is pretty simple to answer. We care about being liked because we fear being alone. We fear not belonging somewhere or to someone. And that is why we want to be liked. Because not being liked would mean not being accepted and that again would withhold us the possibility to belong to a group. Same goes for caring about what others think. Especially if it’s people who we like a lot, whose opinion matter to us. We fear they might think negative about whatever we want to do. And that again makes us either afraid of our dreams not being accepted or of us not being accepted anymore. Which both kinda sucks as your dreams are part of your life and your future.

Why you need to stop caring about what others think?

As you’ll probably have already concluded, caring too much about being liked or what other people think will limit you in your decisions and hinder you in developing your potential. You will not do things because you are afraid others might judge. But those things might me exactly the things you need to do to achieve your dreams. For example, I was always super afraid what my friends would think if I’d suddenly started talking on IG story. I feared they think I’m ridiculous and make fun of me. But deep down I knew that I needed to take that step to get one step closer to my dream of helping people like you. Of having my own coaching business and impacting other people’s lives positive. So not doing it because I feared not being accepted by my friends any more was holding me back from achieving my dream. You might think now, but what is so bad on wanting to belong somewhere? Why should I want to give up wanting to belong somewhere and therefore caring about what those people think?

You are right. It’s not all bad to care. And I am not saying you should stop it entirely. But you should definitely think more about what people you want to be liked by and whether those people are worth your sacrifices. And to be honest, if they don’t support you no matter what you want to do, then screw them. You don’t need to belong to their tribe. What you need and what you deserve is a tribe that supports you and encourages you no matter how silly or absurd your dreams might look like. So, if someone thinks bad about you then honestly ask yourself whether or not this person really needs to belong into your life. And if she or he doesn’t then start giving a sh*t about what they think and whether or not they like you.

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How to stop caring about what others think, say or do?

Now, how do you stop caring though. I know that is the hard part. But I’ve got some reminders that you can recall whenever you realize you care too much. First though let me say one thing. Don’t feel bad about yourself if you care. That is normal. Start becoming aware of the people whose opinion is important to you and ask yourself why? Then ask yourself what would be the worst thing that could happen if you started that thing and they suddenly didn’t like you anymore. Is that consequence outweighing the benefit of getting closer to your dreams? No. Then stop caring and start doing. Know that, if someone thinks bad about you then you don’t need them in your life. They are holding you back, they are part of the reason why you are not living your dream life.

It does not matter to your life’s happiness whether or not people like you. Not even if they are super close to you. Why?

Because there are 2 Million other people who can potentially like you for what you do. So why focusing on just that one person or group of people. If they don’t accept you and your decisions, they don’t belong in your life.

So, I ask you, what are you waiting for?

The right people will come into your life. Those people will love you for your actions, they will support you and they will push you to keep going. And those are exactly the people you need. Everyone else, you don’t need in your life. They are only holding you back from living your dream life. So, stop caring about what others think. Stop caring about what they might think. If they are the right tribe for you they will support you. If they don’t then it’s better they go anyway. You need a supportive and uplifting environment to thrive.

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