Don’t we know it all? That feeling. Which is eating us up from inside. It makes you feel sad, lost and heartbroken. The feeling of saying goodbye to people we got so used to. I am sure, if you are a traveller, you have experienced the feeling of saying goodbye when you had to leave. How did you like it?
It sucks right. I know exactly how you feel, I have it all the time when I have to leave for another place. It makes me want to cry. Though why is it so hard for us to leave people we only know for a few days or weeks and isn’t there anything how we can please make this easier?
Well, I am about to answer this question today and hopefully throw you a lifeline and make saying goodbye when going home easier for you.
Ready? Okay, here is what we cover today:
Why saying goodbye is so hard?
How you can make it easier?
Why it is a good thing after all?
Why saying goodbye is so hard?
Isn’t it a funny thing, we go somewhere unfamiliar and meet strangers. We spend a few days or weeks with them and they suddenly become one of the most important people in our lives.
How is that?
Well, when you meet people during your travels, they get to know you in a way different way then all your friends at home. They experience your perfectly authentic self in its favourite soundings. Also as a matter of the huge choice of people out there, when traveling you can choose with whom to hang out. So, of cause you choose those you get along best with.
Lastly in contrary to your friends and home, you mostly spend 24/7 with them, so you get to know each other better than everywhere else.
These few points lead to the fact that you get so used to and get to love each other.
If you then have to say goodbye with the uncertainty of not knowing when to see each other again your heart can break.
Of cause, you can have the believe, and trust me I do it too, that you will, one day, see that person again. Though it can be years till then and that thought is pretty sad if you’re dealing with someone you got to like so much, right?
And, without intention of making the situation worse, it won’t get easier the more you travel.
I have been traveling for about 4 years now and it never gotten easier for me. I still cry every time when I have to leave for home and say goodbye. And let me tell you something, the longer you stay in one place the harder it gets to leave those people.
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But no matter how hard it is, how heartbroken you might feel after leaving wherever you are, there are a few things that can help you make it a little bit easier.
How to make saying goodbye easier?
Of cause, nothing of those things will take this sad feeling from you entirely. Only time can do that. Though it might help you to feel a little bit better now. At least it helps me to feel better and not get dragged into a negative Mindset.
So, what can you do to make leaving easier?
1. Knowing when to see people again
The best you can do, when you have to leave is put on that Mindset I was talking about before.
Believe that you will see those people again. No matter how long it will take, one year, two years, five years, you will see them again if you both really want to.
All you need to do is believe it and make it happen.
This knowledge can then atheist can be a little light in the dark.
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2. Schedule a meet up
To take the first thought even a step further, you can even schedule a meet up before you leave.
Talk to each other and think of ways how and when you guys can see each other again. Maybe you can come back in a few months or you can meet up somewhere else.
Or you visit each other at home. There are many ways to see each other again.
Having that date set makes it a lot more reachable and real.
3. Book a flight
Another step further is booking a flight, train or bus ticket to wherever you decided to meet up. Having the ticket in your pocket you finally have it secure. You are going to see each other again. So, if the earlier you book that flight the sooner you will get rid of that sad feeling after going home.
4. Exchange address and contact details
If it is, because of whatever, not possible for you to see each other again anytime soon there’s still something you can do to keep in contact. In this age of Social Media, it is so easy to stay in touch with everyone. So, exchange some contact details maybe even addresses so you can text, call and send each other stuff.
You will see if you really are close friends it will stick, even though you don’t see each other for a while. And you can still keep one another up to date about what is going on in your lives and where you currently are so you can maybe meet up by accident.
5. Think positive, think of what is coming next
Lastly but probably the most immediate cure for this kind of heart break is putting on a positive Mindset.
Stop thinking of how sad this goodbye is or if you will see those people again. Instead focus on what is coming next. Think of all the amazing moments, adventures and people will cross your path in the next weeks and months.
I bet you have a lot planned and are having a great time. And even if saying goodbye doesn’t get easier, one thing is for sure, there is always something good coming after. Trust me.
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If you apply these few tips you will see, you will feel a lot better already. And if you still struggle with putting on a positive Mindset about those goodbyes, here is why it can be a good thing to say goodbye. Or how you can profit from it at least.
Why it is a good thing to leave?
Traveling has many downsides but saying goodbye for sure is the hardest thing of all. And I agree with you that no one really needs it and me as well could really relinquish on it.
Though there’s one positive effect of it too. Dealing with that kind of emotions will help you grow as a person.
Remember that you need struggles to improve, learn and grow as a person. So, if this struggle won’t help you with that, I don’t know.
Overcoming the pain of leaving people you like and start over is making you emotionally strong. And it is absolutely no bad thing to feel heartbroken for a few days. It is okay to be sad and grieve. Though when it is time to let go and move on, you have to show the strength to do it. And I know you can because you are stronger than you think. And saying goodbye will teach you that.
So, don’t be afraid of leaving a place, see it as a chance to improve personally and get stronger.
I hope you could take something from that post and a fare well is a little bit easier for you now. Or at least you know how to deal with it.
If you still need support though, don’t hesitate to contact me. You can connect with me on Instagram or Facebook or just comment below or write me an email. It is really important for me that you know, you are not alone. There are many people out there who struggle with the same and we can help each other to feel better.
That said, if you know someone how is struggling with that, feel free to share this post with them so they can feel a little better.
And make sure to come by next week for more good stuff or check out some of my older posts about self-development and traveling.