What is the biggest thing you regret in your life so far? Is there something you regret at all? We all have those moments we are less proud of than of others and it is normal to make mistakes and think back to occasions where we would now, that we are older and wiser, have chosen a different path. However, I hold the strong believe that you should never regret any decision you took throughout your life. And today I will tell you 6 reasons how you can stop regretting and gain more happiness in your life. Because whether you want to believe it or not but happiness and having regrets go hand in hand and affect each other deeply.

First though let me show you what you can expect from this post:

  • How regretting is holding you back from being happy
  • 6 ways to change your point of view about regrets
  • How I never regret my decisions

Let’s get started, shall we?

How regretting is holding you back from being happy

We all make mistakes, we all have those moments we would probably change if we could go back in time. However, if you put too much energy and thought into those moments and start to regret something deeply it will have a hugely negative impact on your happiness. How?

Regretting is a form of resistance to what has happened and by resisting what has already happened, what you can’t change or have impact on anymore, you cause suffering for yourself that serves no purpose.

There’s nothing you can do about it now so stop wasting your time, energy and happiness on thinking about it or even worse regretting to have taken the decision the way you have. Accept that it is how it is.

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You can’t be truly happy if you regret something because it will always come back to your mind and you’ll ask yourself why you haven’t done it or how bad you want to get a chance to do it again in a different way. You have to let those things go so you can actually enjoy the present and the future. Because only the present moment is where you can actually make the “right” decisions. The present is the only thing you have control over.

Choose to focus on those things you can control and let go of what you can’t control or change and you will see a great change in your happiness. I promise.

And if this isn’t enough reason for you to let go of regrets, keep reading. Below there are 5 reasons why you should never regret and how changing your point of view about regrets can foster your life positively.

5 Ways to change your point of view about regrets

To change your point of view about regretting all you need to do is adapt a few very simple beliefs about yourself, decisions and life in general.

Here they are:

Belief #1: Everything leads you to becoming the person you are

 There’s a reason for everything. Nothing just happens because. Everything happens for a reason and the sooner you accept that the sooner you can start moving on from your mistakes and living a happier life. And to make this even better, you will end up where you are supposed to be, you just need to have faith in that.

Belief #2: At the moment of taking the decision it was right for you

Things change, opinions, dreams, goals and perspectives. It’s normal and good that you change over time. So, it is the most human in the world that you would decide differently now than you might have five years ago. However, don’t beat yourself up for this or worry too much about it, take it to learn and adapt your goals. If your point of view has changed maybe it’s time for you to change some habits too.

Belief #3: You will miss out on life

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did so. So, throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. – MARK TWAIN

Like Mark says, if you live life by regrets you will miss out. There’ll be so many things you will not do because you fear of regretting it later. However, let me tell you as someone who lives life on the edge of what is “normal”, you will only regret not having done things later.

Belief #4: Mistakes are there to learn from them

Work on your weaknesses, strive to grow as a person and learn from your mistakes. Or as I like to say: If you never try you never know. Failure is necessary for you to succeed. If you don’t try things you will never learn how to do them and it is pretty human to fail and make mistakes. Very few people get it right the very first attempt.

We need to make those mistakes to learn and know better in the future.

Belief #5: It’s the best way to learn to love yourself

If you manage to forgive yourself for your mistakes and accept yourself as you are with all your missteps, flaws and weaknesses than you are truly one step closer to loving yourself.

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How do I never regret?

First and for most I hold the deepest believe that everything in life leads us to who we supposed to become. Holding this belief alone is the best way to never having regrets. However, there’s something else I do, that really helps me especially with those moments I might want to change about my past and to make sure I take decisions for the future I will not regret.

I know it might sound a little bit crazy but I like to think about my life from the view of my future or past self. I try to figure out what they would say or think of me right now. What their point of view would be on a topic I’m into at the moment. Whenever I am not sure about whether I should do something or not or what to think about a topic or if I realize I get caught in emotions and can’t think about this realistically, I try to see it from a different, more objective point of view.

I try to imagine what my future self would do now or more on which decision I would be proud having chosen it even 10 years later.

It may feel impossible or totally awkward to do so but belief me if you try it, it’ll isn’t so bad at all and it helps you not to do something you may regret later.

Now you can do it the other way around as well. If there was anything in your past you may want to change or you’re not sure if it was a good idea, think of those three things.

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Now you can do it the other way around as well. If there was anything in your past you may want to change or you’re not sure if it was a good idea, think of those three things.

  1. Was it of any value for you then? Was it fun? Have you learned anything form it? I’m sure you have, because all things happening to us, all decisions we make help us to become the person we are now and if we would have experienced whatever feeling we had back then we wouldn’t be where we are now. Things happen for a reason and they make you the person you are and I bet you are amazing and should really be thankful for what lead you there.
  2. You can’t change the things so why should you waste a minute thinking you want to if you could use this time doing something very awesome right now.
  3. If you regret something of your past that means you dislike a part of your life, a part of you and you really shouldn’t. There are so many great moments in your life I’m sure. Why not focusing on them rather than on the few, you may want to do different. Also everything leads you to become the person you are supposed to be so take those mistakes and learn from them.

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I hope after reading all of this you are now ready to let go of regretting and start living a fulfilled, regret less and happy life. And whenever you should have moments of regret, which is perfectly human, come back to this post to remind yourself of why it is important you let go of these thoughts.

In addition, if you know someone who might need to let go of regrets, send this post to him or her to help them grow.

Last, I’d love to connect with you on Instagram and Facebook to hear your stories about regretting and working past that to grow. So, feel free to stop by and say “Hi”.

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