Welcome or welcome back to my blog, it’s so good to have you here.
If you believe it or not but it’s time for another part of the “chasing dreams” series. I hope you are excited for today lessons.
For all those who are not aware of the concept behind this “chasing dreams” series, here is what it is all about.
Every second week I share some insights into my past two weeks and share with you not only what I’ve been up to but more importantly what I’ve learned though life and everything that has happened.
I reflect on those lessons and see how they’ve helped me to become happier, healthier and closer to my dreams.
Sharing those experiences with you I hope to give you some guidance and inspiration on how you too can see those little lessons life is teaching us every day and take those opportunities as a chance to enhance change and consciousness.
Now though, let’s get started.
17th to 31st of May
Everyday life really has settled in the past couple weeks.
One thing that makes me feel certain about Portugal as a good candidate for a future home country is that I am already living a very ordinary life here.
When you are traveling, you can fall in love with countries and you might even think they would be a good fit for your new home. However, you only know it for sure once you’ve got to live an everyday life in this country.
Traveling is always exciting and it makes you see a place in different light. But just because you are happy in a country while you are traveling it, doesn’t mean you will be once you are living there.
If you’ve lived there though, even if it’s just for a year or so and had an everyday life with its mediocracy and boring content and you think this is still awesome and every day still seems exciting, then you not only living your dream life but you also found a perfect place to live it at.
So yeah, the past few weeks really showed me the potential Portugal has as a home base from where I could live my dream life. However, that’s still in the future and nothing to obsess too much about now.
What I’ve learned though throughout those very ordinary work weeks was the following.
You create your happiness
Whether your life is exciting or not, is not a question of place. You don’t need to live a certain lifestyle or be at a certain place to feel happy and excited.
Excitement can be created through anything. It is within your power and within your choice to find out what excites you and then include it in your everyday life to make it fun and joyful no matter where you are or how your everyday might look like.
Mediocracy only has space to arise once you stop seeking for excitement in life. Excitement is key to happiness.
So, go out there, and go within yourself. Ask what does bring me joy? What is it that makes me feel most alive?
Then go and do it as much and as often as possible.
You have the choice on how to react
Of course, there are shit things happening sometimes. And I had some crap moments myself these past weeks when I lost my surfboard and living on a financial limit.
However, it is within your choice as well whether those things take away your happiness or not.
You can decide if and if yes, how you react to situations in your everyday life. When something bad happens, you can choose to either let it put you down or let it not affect your current state of happiness.
I know this is easier said than done. And I must admit, especially after losing my board I had a hard time letting it go. However, practice and patience will take you their eventually.
So, every time something happens that makes you feel negativity arise. Become aware of it as a source of unhappiness. Then chose to let it go. Tell yourself feeling shit because of xyz does not do any good. It doesn’t serve any purpose.
And why should you deal with something that doesn’t serve you. Surrender and let go.
Don’t let others’ problems become yours
Along with that, don’t let others’ problems become yours. Even if they are good friends.
No matter if consciously or not, almost every time someone asks us about something or tells us about their feelings it’s a request for us to either react in a certain way or spend time, energy and/or money to help out.
And while I think helping others and serving in the quest of happiness and community is awesome and we should all do it more, you don’t have to carry other peoples’ bags.
If you let someone else’s problem become yours through getting to attached or emotionally involved in the situation. Or simply because you feel the urge to make right towards that person you create unhappiness in your own life.
Either because your positive attitude gets poisoned by the negativity of the situation or person. Or because you spend all your time and energy on fixing someone else’ things and then don’t have any left to fix your own.
So, next time someone wants something from you, even if it’s something small, take your time and ask yourself whether you really want to and can objectively help in that situation without losing your own happiness.
If yes, then go and help. If not, say you are sorry but you can’t help with that.
Also, be aware that such requests often come hidden and you need to be very conscious to detect them. So, what you can do, to give yourself some more time to evaluate is telling the person you’ll give an answer in x hours. Then you can think about it and decide whether or not this is something you want to help with or not.
Personal development really makes you happier
In the last post of this series I told you about that life audit I’m currently doing. Just a quick catch up for all those who don’t know what I’m talking about:
I’m currently evaluation all areas of my life and my personality to detect destructive habits and routines that are causing unhappiness and holding me back. I set myself the goal to overcome my perfectionism and increase my productivity in personal and work life.
Now that I’ve been doing it for about a month I am at a point where I can say, I’ve managed a lot. I for sure haven’t rewired all destructive thought patterns and still have some work to do in many areas to be really productive.
But the first steps are taken and I can already see an improvement. I love my new routines and feel so much happier now than I felt four weeks ago.
I finally feel like I am in charge of my life again. Happiness has replaced stress and life is not working against me anymore.
This four-week life audit showed me again how important it is to reflect on yourself and your life, how much you can benefit from personal development and that consistent self-reflection and adjusting is necessary to maintain happy.
So, I will continue doing my life audit in special sessions three times a week and see how it’s going.
Stop feeling guilty for taking a break
This is probably the thing I worked on most the past couple weeks: not feeling guilty for doing nothing.
As a high achiever and perfectionistic person, I have the urge to always do something to feel accomplished.
So, it was a real challenge for me to get used to doing nothing and not feeling guilty about it.
And even though I knew that breaks are necessary for success to happen, I still had and have sometimes a hard time to take those breaks.
I am well aware that this is something I will probably have to remind myself over and over again until it really sticks. But these past weeks I implemented some helpful strategies on how I can trick my mind into seeing breaks for what they are: room for happiness to flourish.
So, if you too struggle with accepting and taking breaks as something vital, don’t worry. Here’s what I always tell myself once that guilt arises.
Being busy all the time equals wasting your energy. Most of what you do is unproductive and doesn’t serve any purpose but procrastination. Being productive and achieving something is not about doing as much as possible. It is about having as much energy as possible to do as much of the important as possible.
And the only way you will get that energy is by taking breaks. And if you believe it or not, the world will not stop spinning if you take a break for a day or two. Guess what, ou will start again right where you left off and nothing bad will have happened.
I hope you enjoyed todays lessons and could take something valuable from it. If so, feel free to share this post.
Also make sure to connect with me on Instagram and Facebook as I have some exciting things to share with you next month. One of which will be an “Inspiration Challenge” on Instagram where I will not only share more about myself and my life but also provide you the best inspiration possible to create your dream life.
So if you’re ready for more happiness in your life, follow me on Social Media.
Lastly, here are some more posts for immediate happiness:
How to create good habits and achieve your goals by simplifying your life today? Find it out in my Let’s Grow guide.
How to be more confident? Find it out in my Let’s Grow guide.
And then I happy weekend and see you Monday!